Moving Forward – working to heal the divide

Moving Forward – working to heal the divide

The results of this past weeks election have put a new exclamation mark on the sense of divide that has been growing in our country over the past few years. I keep asking myself: What should I have done? How should I move forward? How do we heal the divide? It’s tempting to get into discussions about politics, however I’m not a political analyst.  I’m […]

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When life isn’t fair

We’ve all heard it before: “Life isn’t always fair”. Maybe it was from a parent, or friend or mentor, but the old adage is true. The funny thing about being a counselor is others think we are supposed to deal with it better.  I was in my chiropractors office recently and he asked me why I think I’m feeling so stiff and sore lately.  I […]

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New Beginnings

I’m not really sure how this happened. I’m currently in a plane, over the grand canyon, on my way to Las Vegas for a conference that combines two of my favorite things: therapy and the wilderness. It’s fitting really. My journey to becoming a counselor began 19 years ago when I took a job as a counselor at a Boy Scout Camp. I loved working […]

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The Gun Control Debate is Missing the Point

The tragedy in Newtown is a little over three months old, and talk in the wake of that tragedy has largely devolved into the need for more or less guns. The need for better mental health services got some good lip service, but most of the “solutions” I’ve seen passed and proposed offer little more than the duty to warn laws already on the books […]

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Violent Video Games: some brief thoughts from a father and counselor

The topic of violent video games is one that has become a hot issue since the Newton tragedy.  As a counselor, father and gamer I find the whole thing interesting and also a little perplexing. Shortly after Newtown I wrote this post on ign, a gaming website, and given the recent government and media attention to the matter I thought I’d post it here: Personally, […]

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Learning to Listen: Beginning to find answers

Like the rest of the country, I feel like I’ve been in a state of moderate shock since the events at Sandy Hoook Elementary. Like many of you the tragedy of 20 dead children, about the same ages as my little girls, has me asking so many questions: How did this happen? Were there any warning signs? Could anything have been done? Could this happen […]

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Working with Troubled Teens

Working with Troubled Teens

In the wake of the suicide of a Glenelg teen last month I have had the opportunity to talk to a couple local youth workers about how to take care of troubled teens and at risk youth.  It reminded me of why I got into counseling in the first place.  When I was in youth ministry I found myself faced with a couple situations where […]

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Dealing with stress: It’s ok to not be ok

I can’t believe it’s been over a month since my last post, and my promise to start blogging more regularly.  Truth is, this has probably been the hardest month of my professional counseling career.  I’ve been busy, very busy.  This is a tough time of year in general for a lot of people.  The doldrums of winter, being stuck inside and short days start to […]

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Giving less

Giving less

And after there had been much debate, Peter stood up and said to them, “Brothers, you know that in the early days God made a choice among you, that by my mouth the Gentiles should hear the word of the gospel and believe. And God, who knows the heart, bore witness to them, by giving them the Holy Spirit just as he did to us, […]

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Merry Christmas to all…

…oh that it were so. For many of us, especially those of us who are kids at heart, or get to enjoy the company of children during this season, it is one of the most wonderful times of the year.  I have been very much enjoying watching my kids reactions to christmas lights, Santa Claus, advent traditions, and so many other unique and fun things […]

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